Monday, March 17, 2008

那股莫名其妙的感觉

“针打得怎么样了?”干孩子的娘问。

“昨天刚开始打。很痛,也很恐怖。”我述说着。

“不要看就没事。”

“我都快要窒息了,怎么可能去看呢?”

其实那种恐惧的感觉何止窒息了得。心脏似乎快冲出来,打紧得很,身上所有的神经与细胞都提高了戒备,血压指数肯定往上直飙,大脑主栖系统响着警急讯号。。。那种感觉太莫名其妙了。

我相信我的恐惧症并非极端,因还能在我的控制下,不敢去想象那种发狂似的极端,想必将会变成另一个人。其实我也有惧高症,面临和地面有一定的距离时,亦会有窒息的恐惧感,同时双腿开始不属于你的。但至少本身能够克服,要不然怎么去爬山、怎么玩过山车?我还想要尝试绑紧跳、走悉尼海港大桥的bridgeclimb、走澳门塔的空中漫步、参观美国大峡谷的天空走廊,并踩上那聂人的玻璃人行桥。哇,好期待 :P!

我已自我催眠了1年多,好不容易去年鼓起勇气迈出了第一步,做了第一个试验。那时的我简直是直处于“蛮张”状态,mood swing得好厉害,根本就是自杀似的。虽然有了经验,那份恐惧感始终无法消除。这一两天的mood swing也很厉害,好痛苦。

哎呀,不要再去想了啦。要加油,要勇敢一点。。。要。。。要。。。我的妈呀。。。

Monday, March 10, 2008

一种米养百种人

Our neighbouring country just had had their General Election on last Saturday, 03rd March 2008. The big hooha is although the ruling party Barisan Nasional (BN) had won, but in reality, they had lost.

It all boils down to complacency and taking things for granted. Of course, how can politics be so simple and clean? Well, it is not my intention to touch on polictical issues here. After reading all the news, it just strikes my mind it is good to be part of the red dot.

Where on earth can you find another place that sees existence of multi-racism, multi-religion? Not that I know of, but correct me if I am wrong though. For our neighbour, Chinese and Indians are not given equal status, at all levels, including education. Couple with the clash with the Indian community right before the GE, do you think BN still has the chance to return triumphantly? I doubt so.

What really sickens me is the insolent remarks made by their "infamous" ex-premier Dr M. God, he is either senile or he loses a screw somewhere up there. To think they are in the same party, aren't they all the more should support one another, for good and for worst??? Incredulous!!

A friend of mine who has made his base in HK, rattled off list of complaints to me weeks ago. His job requires him to fly pretty frequently, so he presumably and with pomposity, thinks he has seen the BIG W-I-D-E world. He screamed into my ears (no joke) why this why that, China is so big, Singaporeans are shallow minded, blah blah blah.....Sorry, but I really do not, and could not be bothered to, remember his exact words. What I do not comprehend is: if he has seen the world, where did all these complaints stem from???

C'mon, we are not born equal, how to expect each and every one of us to have the same perspective on each matter? There are people out there who can't barely bring home a proper meal and know not what tomorrow holds for them, and you want them to think with a bigger heart? You must be joking!

We are blessed as we are able to see the various parts of the world, but that does not equate us to have a louder voice. If we are wise enough, count our lucky stars. And, if we are wiser, emulate the goodness/excellence of others and take not the dregs of the worst.

Complacency kills the wisdom. If it is a lesson to be learnt, so be it. Take it in your stride and move on. Stop being such a pompous pig, and just shut up.

Thursday, March 06, 2008

理直氣和

理直氣和
撰文/李焯芬

故事發生在一個餐廳裡。

「小姐!你過來!你過來!」一位顧客高聲叫嚷,指着面前的杯子,一臉冰霜地說,「看看!你們的牛奶是壞的,把我一杯紅茶都糟蹋了

「真對不起!」服務員笑着道歉,「我馬上給你換一杯。」

新紅茶很快就準備好了,碟邊與前一杯一樣,放着新鮮的檸檬和牛奶。服務員輕輕放在顧客面前,又輕聲地說:「我是不是也能建議你:如果放檸檬,就不要加牛奶,因為有時候檸檬酸會造成牛奶結塊。」

顧客的臉紅了起來,匆匆地喝完茶便走了。

有人笑問服務員:「明明是他土,你怎麼不直說呢?他那麼粗魯地叫你,你怎麼不還以一點顏色?」

「正因為他粗魯,所以才要用婉轉的方法應付。正因為道理一說就明白,所以用不着大聲。」服務員說:「理不直的人,才需要靠氣壯來壓人。理直的人,則可以用氣和來解決問題和多交朋友。」

人們常說「理直氣壯」,卻往往忽視了「理直氣和」的好處。有理不在聲大;世間許多問題,也只有在心平氣和的情形才好解決。